MOBILE PHONE ETIQUETTE-OR SHOULD THERE BE ANY?

The answer is a firm YES!

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Rude mobile phone users are anywhere. Most people who are being impolite don’t even realize that they’re doing it. I would encourage mobile users to realize that the space they occupy when in public, is to be shared with others, not dominated upon.

The dangers some mobile phone users are placing on themselves and others, may be selfish or thoughtless.

The noise pollution that one has to endure while people are avoiding their responsibilities is growing.

By choice, I have resisted getting a mobile phone for many years because some of the things I have had to endure as a motorist, as a pedestrian, as a passenger on a train/tram or while entertaining dinner guests. Here are some reasons why.

When I have guests over for dinner and they have their mobile phones on the table and then answer it, I have to look at the tops of their heads, it stifles conversation and it’s disrespectful.

When I see pedestrians walking on the phone while trying to cross the road and holding motorists up, it’s annoying.

When I see young mothers pushing a pram, walking the dog and talking on the phone while walking on the footpath, it’s dangerous.

When I see others on public transport shouting into their mobile phones, it’s distracting.

When I see others talking into their mobile phones and I can hear their private conversations, it’s embarrassing.

When I see others multi tasking then dropping shopping, bags, papers or bumping into you, it’s disrespectful.

When in church and people are making business deals during the ceremony, its sheer tactless and blasphemous.

Who decides on the answering time for missed phone calls? I have friends who are stressed because they have to answer phone calls the same day.

Someone who asks you to turn your mobile phone down or off is in good faith, and you should comply in good faith. They have a reason for asking, and it’s probably not that they’re trying to dominate you or hassle you or restrict you.

It is not other people’s responsibility to cope with your mobile phone use, it is your responsibility to use your mobile phone inoffensively. The word “inoffensively” is not defined by what you expect others to tolerate.

If people don’t answer calls or emails on the same day could it be because they are busy or not feeling well? Could it be because they are prioritizing their work load and communications?

I’m not against mobile phones, but I say a healthy dose with respect for others, using discretion and balance, would make life easier for all. Following etiquette would give us more time for family and friends and improve our relationships  with others.

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Jesus calls for “kingdom behavior.” God is our ultimate host, and we, as hosts should behave as guests.

 

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Parents and parenting-difficult but not impossible

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I see this happen all the time and it annoys me to no end. Parents asking their children 8, 9 10, 11, 12, 13 year olds to make decisions for them. eg, the house and furniture they buy, the school they will go to, the holidays they will go on, the restaurant they choose etc, etc.

I thought life was one of those things that you grew into, that parents have wisdom to draw from and guide and lead their children into what is good for them. That life experiences teach us valuable life lessons, that scars follow growth and change.

Consider this, a child wants to go to a particular school because his friends are going there, not considering educational or financial factors. Parents sacrificing financially to buy a house that’s in keeping with their child’s vision or commodities.  Parents giving into having a lavish birthday party with alcohol, amidst underage teenagers. Parents giving into Facebook/Mobile phone accounts when it’s not a necessity and the child is underage etc… etc..

As an educator, I have seen the aftermath of parents giving into these things. As a parent, I had to resist giving into some of these. I was told by my children that I was the worst parent. Well!!!!!!!!!!! How many parents had they had? ( one set of course). I figured that as a parent, I wasn’t meant to be their friend (not yet anyway, although my children and I are best friends now).

The important thing here is to remember, that because parents have given into their children’s whims, they run the risk of having spoilt children. Children who don’t adapt well. Children who have little resilience. Children who cannot regulate their feelings or emotions, children who cannot face challenges in life because they’re too hard. Children who are lazy, children who are not independent enough or self starters. I’m speaking from first hand experience here, all this can manifest in the child getting headaches, sore stomachs, children who cannot cope at school or at work in some cases, I have seen children as young as 5 year olds suffer from anxiety, depression and stress because school is too hard.

Mind you, I’m not trying to pick on parents here, because parenting is very testing but as an educator I can see the benefits of tough love. Setting boundaries and having consequences for not adhering to them, are important in establishing order and character.

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The Beatitudes Matthew 5:2-12

At the beginning of each school year the students and I formulate 3-4 goals/values for the smooth running of the classroom. We establish together, positive and negative consequences. The classroom has to be a fair and a happy environment to work in. Explicit teaching of the pros and cons and of the consequences are paramount.

This is not fail-proof, things don’t always work to plan, however, with routine and consistency and prayer I see a change in the students and standards rise as they aspire to be better.  I believe this is good psychology for parenting as well.

Discipline of children can be hard and sometimes seemingly unrewarding for a moment, but you eventually reap the rewards. After parenting two children and having spent many years in education myself, I can look back on the hardships and see the rewards that have come after, worth the effort.

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With some explicit teaching, children learn what they live:-

  • If the children see a parent praying they will learn to pray.
  • If the children see order they will learn to appreciate and aspire to it.
  • If a parent gives praise they will praise others.
  • If a parent shows respect they will learn to respect.
  • If a parent sees the glass as half full they will see life as too hard.
  • If a parent is hardworking and a go getter, they will go and get what they need.    There is no magic formula, what you put into the bucket is what you get in return.
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FAMILY DAY TODAY-THERE IS JOY IN STAYING TOGETHER



Life and education begin at home. The home is the primary and most vital factor in a child’s education and development into a mature and stable member of society. The first encounter with God for a newborn child is through the family. Children learn by listening and watching the parents, so good modelling is paramount.

When God gave the commandments to Moses, He directly devoted two of His ten great laws to protecting family relationships. In the 5th and 7th commandments, we see how important honoring parents and for parents to love, care and respect one another is, in maintaining a Christian family relationship.

The saying goes that a family who eats together stays together. We had lunch with my mother, coffee with my brother and ice-cream with my daughters and partner.

A great way to share and catch up with mutual respect for one another and then praising God for the gift of each other.(Exodus 20:12-14)

A MOTHER’S PERSPECTIVE-HOMAGE TO MOTHER’S, SUNDAY, 8th MAY

 

                                     
Gender confusion is starting to creep in our society, any ideologies which deny the biological difference of a man and a woman is wrong and damaging to the very fabric of the family unit and society. Where the gender of a person can be the choice of an individual and change over time, would have to add confusion especially to developing minds. This negates the intelligent designer God – the all knowing and all loving Father, whose plan was to create mothers as an extension of His love for us. So while we can still celebrate MOTHER’S DAY in the traditional sense without being prosecuted, I just want to thank God for giving us mothers, for differentiating them,  for who they are, and for who God made them to be – nurturing, guiding, caregiving, gentle, sacrificing, hardworking, intuitive, etc…..

                                                 

HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY TO ALL YOU BEAUTIFUL MOTHERS OUT THERE!

GOD HAS MADE US A FAMILY

A man and a woman would form a “one-flesh” union through marriage                       ( Gen. 2:24), and they with their children become a family, the essential building block of human society.images (1)

God gave us a family to live in because He didn’t want us to live alone.

A loving, caring and God centred Family is another extension of God and His love for mankind.

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Prayer of an Expectant  Mother

Lord Jesus, I lovingly pray for this sweet hope
that I keep within my womb.
You have granted me the immense gift
of a tiny little life,
living in my own life,
and I humbly thank you for choosing me
as an instrument of your love.
In this sweet waiting,
help me to live in a constant attitude
of self-surrender to your will.

Grant me a motherly heart that is pure,
steadfast and generous.
I hand over to you my own concerns;
any anxious fears that may come,
my own wishes for the little person
that I still have no knowledge of.
Grant that it may be born healthy in body,
keep far from it every peril to its soul.

Mary, you have known
the ineffable joy of a holy motherhood;
give me a heart that can transmit an ardent, living
faith.
Sanctify my waiting,
bless this joyful hope that is in me,
grant that the fruit of my womb
may open out in virtue
and in holiness through your working
with that of your divine Son. Amen.

Prayer of a Mother   (if child is already born)

All loving God,
you created the human family
as a reflection of your own divine life
so that your creation might share in your happiness.

Father we thank you for your marvellous gift;
you have allowed us to share in your divine parenthood.
During this time of  growth
we ask you as a partnership, to nurture our child’s life.

Station your heavenly angels around our child                                                                   to protect and guide him/her.                                                                                               We ask that Jesus deliver him/her from harm and                                                           to bring him/her to the complete truth so as to bring glory to You Lord.

May our child learn to love You and                                                                                   Your Son Jesus Christ.  Amen.